Quite the eye opener this one is. It's a clinical psychology book that has a chapter on hatred and how narcissists are unable to refrain from hating their significant other and a bunch of other things mean lying cheats do.It even explains why which really angered me. Knowing that liars lie because they are full of anger and take particular pleasure in lying to you makes it unacceptable that I ever let a liar lie to me without letting them know that I think they are a liar.I stumbled across this book while hunting around a Barnes and Nobles trying to find a book that was honest about why cheaters do what they do. Unsurprisingly if they are a narcissist they are just filled with hatred towards their significant other. Which was the title of the second chapter, hatred. It seems you aren't worthy unless they aren't.It is very technical with very big words. For a more easily understandable treatment of the subject search for "aggression" and "narcissistic" on answers.com. The results returned are really from wikipedia.com but I like the extra results answers.com gives. I sure wish I had taken my psychology elective in college now. Apparently this is psychology 101. Could have saved myself a lot of trouble earlier if I'd had more interest in the subject back in school.
Originally posted on June 23, 2005 at my other blog:
Aggression by Otto F. Kernberg